4 ways one question can transform your marriage


What is it like being married to me?

That’s the question I want to talk about today. It’s the question that some experts believe is at the heart of all marriage counseling.

And here’s why…

  1. It makes you take a good, hard look at yourself. When I asked myself that question a few years ago, I saw areas in my life that needed work. Plus, my respect and admiration for my late wife, Jo Beth, soared!
  2. It changes your perspective. It’s only natural to see your relationship through your own eyes–but there’s truth to the saying about walking a mile in someone else’s shoes. When you consider how your words and actions impact your spouse, you’re reminded that you’re not the only person in your relationship.
  3. It challenges you about the type of spouse you want to be. Does the reality live up to your expectations for yourself? If you don’t like the answer to the question, do whatever it takes to change it!
  4. It reminds you of the need to improve. Whether you’re a newlywed or have been married for decades, it’s never too early or too late to improve your marriage. It’s hard work—but you’ll be rewarded with the kind of marriage that stays strong through any struggle.

So, again I encourage you to ask your spouse: What’s it like being married to me?

But before you answer, there’s one more critical piece I haven’t mentioned yet. For this question to make a real difference in the health of your marriage, you have to be totally honest with your answer.

No cheating. No wishful thinking. No rose-colored glasses.

I pray the truth of your answer will shine a light on how you and your spouse can have the marriage God wants for you—and truly transform your marriage to one that is nothing short of incredible!

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